This is a “people world” we live in. It’s just the way it is. If you don’t like people very much, then it will effect your success, happiness, luck, growth, joy, abundance and your entire life. In this world, people matter and we are all so closely connected it’s insane. Therefore, from a business standpoint, “people” critically matter.
The other day, I thought to myself that I need to turn-up-the-volume on my own way of interacting with other people. I need to approach them with more love, gratitude, generosity, warmth, giving, PATIENCE, and non-judgement. I need to do this because if I don’t focus on this or concentrate on changing this within me, then I become a little bitter towards people over time.
Think about it, we have customers and those customers can kick our asses if we look at it from the wrong angle. I mean, in this business I have students and I try hard to help them earn money online, but over time, if I let it, many of those students start upsetting me by complaining or not doing what they should be doing.
Over time, I start getting jaded and bitter. Then there’s affiliate and JV partners, colleagues and friends in the marketplace… and COMPETITORS TOO! If you let it, they can kick your ass too… with criticism, rejection, attitudes, egos, demands, lack of integrity, communication, etc.
But then, I take a quick glance in the mirror and I’m like, well, I’m not perfect either! Maybe I was a little too rough on so-and-so. How you do anything is how you do everything right? So, every once in a while, I have to stop my attitude and pivot, turn and change it on the spot to one of more gratitude, giving, non-judgement, patience and even love towards others (ALL OTHERS including the lady who served us dinner last night at Roccos here in Lakeway, TX).
Well, a day or so ago, I changed (AGAIN) my attitude to one of non-judgement, giving and love… and it’s made a profound difference already. I went for a 3 mile jog yesterday (I mean walk) and I saw this guy walking with a huge dog. Normally, I’d sprint right past him (walk…) and just toss him a hello or a nod. Instead, I said, “beautiful dog you have there!”
What a huge difference. You might not be able to see it, but look deeper. He said, “thanks, he’s a handful but we love him”. I stopped to show the dog proper respect and love by petting him and saying “what’s your name?” The man was GLOWING! So was the dog.
So was I and so would anyone who would have witnessed the “friendly” encounter.
Want to turn up the volume on your own magnetism? Then, focus on giving… focus on generosity… focus on loving all people and on non-judgement. Start focusing on your own circumstances and be fine with them. You don’t have to be complacent with where you are, but you can be grateful.
Start giving. You can give a compliment… a smile… a silent prayer… advise… help… hugs… laughter… assistance… etc etc
Then, people will more gravitate to you. Go give 3-5 compliments to people on Facebook or via email right now! Give! You think that dog likes me more now? What about the dog owner? Heck, the next day his wife waved at me and said hello! I bet he told his wife about the nice guy who said “beautiful dog” that runs in the neighborhood everyday (well, walks…)